The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast
How to Change Your Mind Without Losing Yourself
In this episode, Drew and I dive into some of the biggest beliefs we’ve shifted over the years—and what it actually looks like to change your mind. We talk about Drew’s evolving views on religion, why I’m way less convinced that people are as changeable as we like to believe, and why I think trauma might be getting a little too much airtime in the self-help world. We also get into the loneliness epidemic, the quiet power of community, and why so much of “personal growth” isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about learning to work with who you already are. Leave a comment below about what you’ve changed your mind about—and enjoy. Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Chapters 00:00 Intro: What we ve changed our minds about 02:59 Religion 07:40 Where does belief change start? 17:08 Does Mark stand by his books? 18:06 Why change is so hard 30:27 Trauma doesn t determine destiny 37:52 Cautious optimism Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
26 mar 2025 - 47 分 33 秒
Lessons on Money, Success, and Fulfillment You Need to Hear (ft. Lewis Howes)
Lewis Howes is one of the most successful podcasters of all time—12 years, nearly 1,800 episodes, and countless interviews with world-class performers. But what’s even more interesting is how his definition of success has evolved over the years. In this conversation, Lewis opens up about shifting from a hyper-competitive, “be number one” mentality to a more collaborative, impact-driven approach. We also dive into emotional regulation, the surprising ways our relationship with money affects our lives, and why most people either idolize or demonize wealth. Oh, and Lewis casually mentions he’s training to compete in the Olympics in his 40s. No big deal. This episode is packed with insights on what it really means to live a fulfilling, abundant life—without losing your mind in the process. Get 10% off health services at Marek Health: https://marekhealth.com/idgaf Lewis's new book, Make Money Easy: https://www.amazon.com/Make-Money-Easy-Financial-Freedom/dp/1401993931 Lewis's podcast, The School of Greatness: https://lewishowes.com/sogpodcast/ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Theme music: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
19 mar 2025 - 01 小時 15 分 19 秒
Mastering Resilience, AI’s Unstoppable Rise, and Can We Truly Change?
Resilience isn’t just about gritting your teeth and enduring pain—it’s about managing the stories you tell yourself. In this episode, I break down why most people get resilience wrong and how mastering the “second arrow” is the real key to bouncing back. We dive into post-traumatic growth, why caring about something bigger than yourself makes you stronger, and how focusing on what you can control changes everything. We also talk about AI—how it’s not here to save or destroy humanity, but it is going to change everything. We look at how AI is already transforming creative and knowledge-based jobs, why you should be using it right now, and what you can do to stay ahead. Plus, we tackle the ultimate question: Can people change? That three-word question is lot more complex than it seems. Check it out. Get 30 days of Brain.fm for free at https://brain.fm/idgaf Get 20% off PLUS a free rechargeable frother and glass beaker with your first purchase of a Pu’er Tea bundle at https://piquelife.com/idgaf Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Chapters: 0:00Mark feels the AGI—Drew does not 3:42The Fck of the Week: Resilience 25:48Brilliant or Bullsht: AI will doom/save us all 46:27Q A: Can people change? Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
12 mar 2025 - 01 小時 05 分 59 秒
How to Stop Letting Fear Control Your Life (ft. Dr. Julie Smith)
You know that voice in your head that loves to tell you that you suck? Yeah, that one. The one that compares you to everyone on Instagram, tells you you’re a failure for eating cereal at 11 p.m., and insists you’ll never get your life together. Well, today, we’re calling in a professional to deal with that assh*le. Dr. Julie Smith is a clinical psychologist and viral mental health educator who’s built a massive following by actually making psychology make sense. In this episode, she breaks down how to quiet that inner critic, stop getting crushed by comparison, and reframe your self-loathing into something a little more useful—like self-respect. We also dig into what it’s like to become internet famous when you’re an introvert, why emotions are not facts (even though they feel like they are), and how to stop letting social media, your parents, and your own bullsh*t beliefs define your worth. Whether you’re stuck in a shame spiral, wondering why life feels pointless, or just trying to figure out how to not hate yourself so much, this episode is for you. Get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/idgaf Use code IDGAF to get 10% your health services at https://marekhealth.com/idgaf Dr. Julie’s new book, Open When: A Companion for Life s Twists Turns: https://www.amazon.com/Open-When-Companion-Lifes-Twists-ebook/dp/B0D3CB1XX6 Dr. Julie’s first book, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: https://www.amazon.com/Why-Nobody-Told-This-Before-ebook/dp/B0983L6T32 Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Follow Dr. Julie: https://www.youtube.com/@DrJulie https://www.instagram.com/drjulie https://www.tiktok.com/@drjulie https://x.com/drjuliesmith https://www.facebook.com/DrJulieSmith/ Follow Me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Chapters: 0:00Introduction 01:21Using social media to improve mental health? 04:50How Dr. Julie stays sane 07:01When Dr. Julie has to take her own advice 14:01How to deal with comparing yourself to others too much 24:21The human capacity for resilience 32:56How to be less lonely 36:57How to know if therapy is working 43:19What about nihilism? 52:13Where do most parents get it wrong? 56:46What about when you hate yourself? Theme Music: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
5 mar 2025 - 01 小時 02 分 35 秒
How to Fear Less, Spark More Creativity, and Choose Better Problems in Life
Fear of failure isn’t really about failure—it’s about what failure means to us. We’re not scared of messing up; we’re scared of being judged, embarrassed, or proving our worst insecurities right. But the people who actually succeed at anything are the ones willing to suck at it long enough to get good. Today, we break down why failure feels so terrifying, how social comparison messes with our heads, and why the loudest critics are usually the ones who’ve never done a damn thing themselves. Tune in for some practical tips on overcoming all of this. We also dig into the science of why boredom can spark better ideas, why our addiction to content might be making us less creative, and whether we should all do a digital detox before our brains turn into overstimulated mush. Finally, we wrap things up with a simple but profound question: If life is just an endless series of trade-offs, what are the best problems to have? Because problems never go away—you just get to level up to better ones. Get one month free at htttps://brain.fm/idgaf Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough The Creative Benefits of Boredom: https://hbr.org/2014/09/the-creative-benefits-of-boredom Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
26 feb 2025 - 54 分 29 秒
The Unexpected Truth About Sex, Drugs, and Rock & Roll (ft. Randy Blythe)
Life in a rock band isn’t all sold-out shows and backstage parties—it’s a high-pressure, all-consuming commitment that tests friendships, sanity, and survival. In this episode, I sit down with Randy Blythe, legendary frontman of Lamb of God, to pull back the curtain on what it really takes to last in the music industry. From the brutal realities of band relationships to the myths of the rockstar lifestyle, Randy shares unfiltered insights on creativity, addiction, and personal transformation. We also dig into his journey to sobriety, the impact of punk rock’s DIY ethos, and the surprising ways today’s generation is redefining rebellion. Whether you’re a musician, a fan, or just someone navigating your own challenges, this conversation is a raw and inspiring look at resilience, reinvention, and the power of staying true to yourself. Randy’s books: Just Beyond the Light: https://www.amazon.com/Just-Beyond-Light-Making-Inside-ebook/dp/B0DJHMN7C1 Dark Days: https://www.amazon.com/Dark-Days-D-Randall-Blythe/dp/0306825090 Get 30 days of Shopify for just $1 at https://shopify.com/idgaf Use code idgaf50off to get 50% off your first box plus free shipping at https://factormeals.com/idgaf50off Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Theme music: "Icarus Lives" by Periphery , used with permission from periphery.
19 feb 2025 - 01 小時 19 分 01 秒
Snake Oil or Self-Help?, Minimalism’s Real Value, and Atheists Who Go to Church
Self-help is supposed to, you know, help. But what if, sometimes, it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we take a hard look at the self-improvement industry that promises transformation but often sells little more than feel-good illusions. From outdated advice that preys on your insecurities to the dopamine hit of life-changing content that changes nothing, we break down why self-help often fails the people who need it most. Along with unpacking the biggest traps of self-improvement, Drew and I also tackle whether or not minimalism was just an aesthetic rebellion against our parents’ McMansion dreams. We were both once staunch minimalists and we look back on what we learned and what principles still apply to our lives today. We wrap up with a listener question about the ethics of going to church if you’re an atheist. It’s another grab bag episode full of rabbit holes. Check it out. Get one month free at https://br ain.fm/idgaf Get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/idgaf Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Chapters 00:00 Drew s legs are too short for his chair 00:40The F*ck of the Week: Self-Help that doesn t help26:23Brilliant or Bullshit: Minimalism43:05Q A: Is it ok for atheists/agnostics to go to church? Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
12 feb 2025 - 54 分 26 秒
Ask Mark Anything: Live from Australia
Australia, you absolute legends. Back in November, I did a speaking tour across seven cities, talking to thousands of you about life, purpose, relationships, and why giving fewer fucks is the key to actually living a life you don’t hate. We recorded some of the best Q A moments to share with you here on the podcast. We diving into the big existential stuff—how to stop procrastinating, how to know if a relationship is right for you, and whether Australia’s ban on social media for kids is actually a good thing or not. We’ll also talk about the brutal truth behind imposter syndrome, how to stop caring so much about what other people think, and one thing that actually helps you figure out what the hell you should be doing with your life. Plus, I’ll share some hard-earned wisdom on drinking, quitting, and why people stay in bad relationships way too long. So if you’ve ever felt stuck, lost, or just overwhelmed by the sheer absurdity of life, this one’s for you. Hit play and let’s get into it. Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Follow me https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Chapters 00:00Mark goes down under 02:10How do you discover what truly matters to you? 03:45How can I stop procrastinating so much? 07:26How do you deal with negative thoughts and feelings after a trauma? 09:39How long should I wait on my experiments before I move on? 13:18How do you deal with people who want you to tell you how to live your life? 14:36What are some of the hardest things to give up? 16:43What s your best advice on marriage? 19:40Do you think we ll get back together? 22:12Is society rewarding more and more bad behavior? 26:10What are some tradeoffs that more people should do? 28:55What can your books and content teach children? 31:57How do you overcome imposter syndrome? 34:00How to know if your relationship is good enough for you? 35:28How can I deal with being overly empathetic and letting people walk all over me? 38:58What do you think of the ban on kids using social media in Australia? 40:47What s your advice for teenagers? 42:44How do you overcome analysis paralysis? 44:38How can you stop caring about other people s opinions so much? 46:56How can we be more relevant in the AI future? 49:20Why are so many good people not happy? 51:46How do you go about finding your purpose in life? 54:38What should I do if I m focused too much on other people s problems instead of my own (codependency)? 57:42How do continue to overcome failure after failure? 1:00:32How can I find motivation to do anything when the world is so f*cked? 1:04:15How can we more fully face death, grief, and loss? Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
5 feb 2025 - 01 小時 07 分 27 秒
How to Build a Life Full of Meaning and Purpose (ft. Arthur Brooks)
Today, I sit down with Arthur Brooks, a renowned social scientist and happiness expert, for a deep dive into the realms of meaning, faith, and love. Our conversation takes unexpected turns as we explore the intersection of spirituality, psychology, and personal growth. From discussing the evolutionary roots of our search for meaning to examining the role of faith in modern life, this episode challenges conventional wisdom and offers fresh perspectives on age-old questions. We cover a wide range of topics, including the importance of boredom in fostering creativity, the dangers of political activism as a substitute for religion, and the keys to a successful marriage. Arthur shares insights from his work with the Dalai Lama, explains why young men are increasingly turning to religion, and offers advice on finding meaning in a world dominated by technology. Whether you re grappling with questions of faith, seeking to understand the nature of love, or simply looking for ways to live a more fulfilling life, this conversation will leave you with plenty to ponder and explore further. New Huel customers get 15% off plus a free gift (minimum $75 purchase) with code IDGAF at https://huel.com/idgaf Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Arthur’s latest book with Oprah Winfrey: Build the Life You Want: https://www.amazon.com/Build-Life-You-Want-Science-ebook/dp/B0C38FCTJC All of Arthur’s books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Arthur-C.-Brooks/author/B001HOU7RE Arthur’s online workshop: https://www.scienceofhappier.com/ Arthur’s newsletter: https://arthurbrooks.com/newsletter Arthur’s column in The Atlantic: https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/how-build-life/ Follow Arthur: https://www.instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/ https://www.facebook.com/ArthurBrooks/ https://x.com/arthurbrooks https://www.tiktok.com/@arthurcbrooks Chapters: 0:12 Arthur and Mark s failed music careers6:28 Trading meaning for acclaim11:41How to live a more meaningful life19:28Is finding meaning a 1st world problem?22:27The role of religion and/or spirituality25:43The meaning struggle for young men and women29:44Is religion making a comeback?37:48What s love got to do with it?45:12The case for religious/spiritual practice49:58Healthy forms of spirituality55:22Dealing with toxic people59:52Spotting the people who will bring you down1:02:44 Marriage and meaning Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Theme music: “Icarus Lives” by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
29 ene 2025 - 01 小時 13 分 14 秒
Building Real Confidence, The Motivation Puzzle, and Understanding All Your “Parts”
Drew comes in hot today as we dig into the nitty gritty of confidence and motivation. We explore the counterintuitive idea that true confidence doesn't come from expecting success, but from being comfortable with failure. If you've ever struggled with self-doubt or felt demotivated despite external achievements, this episode might just change your perspective. We start by dissecting what I call the "Confidence Conundrum" and how it applies to various aspects of life, from business to relationships. Then, we challenge some long-held beliefs about intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, discussing research that questions the idea that external rewards always undermine our natural interests. We wrap up with a thought-provoking exploration of Internal Family Systems theory and how understanding the different "parts" of our psyche can lead to greater self-integration. This is a grab bag episode that we had a lot of fun with, so I hope you enjoy it. Get 15% off OneSkin with the code IDGAF at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod Try Brain.fm free for 30 days at https://brain.fm/idgaf Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Chapters: 00:00Drew comes in hot 00:53The F*ck of the Week: Confidence 21:55Brilliant or Bullsh*t: Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation 42:44Q A: What do you think of "parts work"? Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
22 ene 2025 - 53 分 08 秒